I have an hourglass figure too! Mine just contains more sand...
I’m sure you’ve always heard about all types of women complaining about how they look. “Do these jeans make me look fat?” “Ugh, I’m so ugly with no make up!” and “I wish I was skinny!”
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| That used to be me on the left. |
Growing up, I not only had the “fat girl” label, but I had the “weird girl” label also. I genuinely hated myself as a child. I hated how I looked. I hated that no one wanted to be my friend until they found out I was Miss Ohio. I hated that I would just come home and play with the neighborhood kids who were obligated to play with me cause their parents wouldn’t let them be mean.
Over the last almost 23 years of my life, I’ve learned to overcome my hatred for myself. I used to look in the mirror and be that fat girl who would cry because she wouldn’t fit in. Then I saw this quote that sincerely changed my outlook on life.
Good ol’ Dr. Seuss. Always knows how to make people think differently, regardless of your age. I couldn’t believe how TRUE this statement was. It made me realize that my whole life, I was constantly looking at all my flaws and what was preventing me from becoming one of the “populars.” I realized it was time to start looking at all the GREAT qualities and talents that I posses, instead of what I lacked.
Over the last almost 23 years of my life, I’ve learned to overcome my hatred for myself. I used to look in the mirror and be that fat girl who would cry because she wouldn’t fit in. Then I saw this quote that sincerely changed my outlook on life.
“Why try so hard to fit in when you were born to stand out?”
-Dr. Seuss
Good ol’ Dr. Seuss. Always knows how to make people think differently, regardless of your age. I couldn’t believe how TRUE this statement was. It made me realize that my whole life, I was constantly looking at all my flaws and what was preventing me from becoming one of the “populars.” I realized it was time to start looking at all the GREAT qualities and talents that I posses, instead of what I lacked.
You want the truth about being a plus sized woman? k.
Yeah, I’m 5'2 and --- lbs of woman…so what? What does “ugly” really mean anyway? I work full time and still manage to fit being a college student, daughter, sister, aunt, and friend in my busy life. I volunteer. I’m a really good person and that is what makes me beautiful.
The way I look at my life now compared to how I looked at my life even just 5 years ago is completely different. I don’t think I’m “ugly” anymore. I don’t ask people “do these jeans make me look fat?” I no longer look in the mirror and tell myself how much of a mess I am. Now I look in the mirror and tell myself “you are BEAUTIFUL!” Why? Because I’m confident in who I am! To be 100% real with you..sometimes it really can be a struggle to be plus sized, Because 1) I have a hard time finding clothes my size. When I do find the perfect shirt or pants, they’re twice as expensive as “regular” sized clothes. 2) Sometimes, I have a hard time keeping up with life’s demands…physically. Going to the gym sometimes feels like a form of punishment instead of a delight. I get out of breath easily and get REALLY lazy, haha.
Whether or not I have makeup on doesn’t matter to me anymore. I learned that yeah makeup can help compliment my features, but it’s not necessary for every single occasion. Ok, so maybe a little makeup is okay for every day use, but there’s no need to over-do it because then I’m taking away from what God created me to look like.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I know I need to lose the weight—not just for physical beauty but also for health reasons. Being over weight can cause many health problems in life. I know that one day with support and hard work that I will reach my goal of weighing 150 lbs. But until then…I’m going to love myself and know that being plus sized isn’t a curse. It’s who I am—at least for the time being.
I do have a few MAJOR tips and good things for fellow plus sizers—
Buy clothes that fit— not ones you wish would fit! Honestly, this will get you far in life.
Eat whatever you want – people will stare either way! When you are plus size, people become utterly fascinated by what you eat. They can’t possibly fathom how you made your body look the way it does, so they feel compelled to observe your eating habits. If you eat something healthy, they stare in disbelief or give you an approving nod for trying to better your health (because, as we all know, being plus size is always a direct result of eating nothing but blocks of cheese and tubs of marshmallow fluff). Contrastingly, if they see you eating something unhealthy, they whisper to their friends about how you are killing yourself by being so fat and cruel to your body. So, because people will stare either way – that gives us plus size people the freedom to eat whatever we want! Plus, we don’t exactly have a figure to maintain, according to everyone else!
No annoying flirty guys at bars! One of my friends (or should I say, acquaintances) let me in on this little secret: since society automatically deems plus size girls as completely repulsive – we never have to worry about being creepily hit on and wolf-whistled like skinny girls constantly are. We are so fortunate because guys aren’t constantly harassing us, and we don’t have to worry about stuff like roofies at bars because we aren’t the targets! Ah, the feeling of safety.
Author’s Note: But seriously, every size is beautiful. Accept yourself, change yourself, or accept yourself while changing.
Until Next Time…Love, Peace, and Chicken Grease
The way I look at my life now compared to how I looked at my life even just 5 years ago is completely different. I don’t think I’m “ugly” anymore. I don’t ask people “do these jeans make me look fat?” I no longer look in the mirror and tell myself how much of a mess I am. Now I look in the mirror and tell myself “you are BEAUTIFUL!” Why? Because I’m confident in who I am! To be 100% real with you..sometimes it really can be a struggle to be plus sized, Because 1) I have a hard time finding clothes my size. When I do find the perfect shirt or pants, they’re twice as expensive as “regular” sized clothes. 2) Sometimes, I have a hard time keeping up with life’s demands…physically. Going to the gym sometimes feels like a form of punishment instead of a delight. I get out of breath easily and get REALLY lazy, haha.
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| This is me without makeup and with my hair a disaster! Yes, I did make this picture a little more dramatic but still…. |
Now, don’t get me wrong. I know I need to lose the weight—not just for physical beauty but also for health reasons. Being over weight can cause many health problems in life. I know that one day with support and hard work that I will reach my goal of weighing 150 lbs. But until then…I’m going to love myself and know that being plus sized isn’t a curse. It’s who I am—at least for the time being.
I am plus sized and proud.
I do have a few MAJOR tips and good things for fellow plus sizers—
Buy clothes that fit— not ones you wish would fit! Honestly, this will get you far in life.
Eat whatever you want – people will stare either way! When you are plus size, people become utterly fascinated by what you eat. They can’t possibly fathom how you made your body look the way it does, so they feel compelled to observe your eating habits. If you eat something healthy, they stare in disbelief or give you an approving nod for trying to better your health (because, as we all know, being plus size is always a direct result of eating nothing but blocks of cheese and tubs of marshmallow fluff). Contrastingly, if they see you eating something unhealthy, they whisper to their friends about how you are killing yourself by being so fat and cruel to your body. So, because people will stare either way – that gives us plus size people the freedom to eat whatever we want! Plus, we don’t exactly have a figure to maintain, according to everyone else!
No annoying flirty guys at bars! One of my friends (or should I say, acquaintances) let me in on this little secret: since society automatically deems plus size girls as completely repulsive – we never have to worry about being creepily hit on and wolf-whistled like skinny girls constantly are. We are so fortunate because guys aren’t constantly harassing us, and we don’t have to worry about stuff like roofies at bars because we aren’t the targets! Ah, the feeling of safety.
Author’s Note: But seriously, every size is beautiful. Accept yourself, change yourself, or accept yourself while changing.
Until Next Time…Love, Peace, and Chicken Grease
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