let’s talk about sex, baby
It really seems like everything is revolved around…sex. So let’s talk about sex baby.
Living in a college world, many of us college students have grown up thinking of virginity as some backwards label we need to shed before moving up anywhere in the college world. We find some cute guy or girl at a party, we lose our virginity and tada! Problem solved, right? The reality is that there are many college peeps that are still carrying their V-cards and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. Still, some people can’t help but worry about the way it’ll affect their love lives (and what guys think of girls who are still virgins).
While it may seem like everyone around you is DTF on any given Friday night, the truth is that virginity is way more common than you typically think. So though there are plenty of ladies who do sleep with different people on the reg, they actually aren’t in the majority. I will be clear in this blog. May be a little TMI, but I don’t mind. As from past blogs, you have come to realize that I am an open book. I don’t write blogs to entertain my readers. I write blogs for myself and then other people are able to connect to them. With that being said, I am a virgin. I am not waiting for marriage, I am not waiting because of religious reasons. I am waiting for the person who I think deserves it. I've met a lot of people who see being a virgin as a bad thing. But I've never been ashamed of being a virgin. In some situations, I'm hesitant to admit this because I feel like some people will see me as a prude or overly innocent because of it. But I'm not. I just don't want to waste something that I see as special on some random guy who may not even remember my name the next morning.
To me, virginity is about respect. Whether it is male or female, people should respect the v-card. I can respect the fact that they’ve waited so long because I’m sure they’ve been tempted. Some people don’t know if they would ever hooked up with a virgin because they want a little more experience. But just remember…you were there once too.
There’s no problem with being a virgin. Yeah, I understand there is probably something sexy about a girl who knows what she’s doing, I guess. But obviously you don’t want a girl who knows too much what she’s doing... she’s been around the block a few times, and uhh,yeah. If a girl or guy wants to hold onto something important to them, respect that. If someone wants to have multiple sex partners, respect that as well.
It does feel like a burden sometimes, or like something I need to get rid of before it hinders me more. You don't want to have to explain how you're 40 and it's your first time. On some days, I feel like the longer I cling to my virginity, the harder it will be to get rid of it. But overall, it's really not like that. It's not an identifier. I'm not ‘the virgin’ in my friend group; I have other things that make me who I am. If you're worried about remaining a virgin, seriously—it’s not a big deal. It's not something that comes up in everyday conversation, and if it's a huge, insurmountable turnoff for someone, they're probably not the people that you want to have your first time with anyway.
Any who, it is nice to know that whatever you decide to do and whatever your level of experience you’re far from alone. So from virgins to sex addicts and everyone in between... safety, sex, and respect.
Living in a college world, many of us college students have grown up thinking of virginity as some backwards label we need to shed before moving up anywhere in the college world. We find some cute guy or girl at a party, we lose our virginity and tada! Problem solved, right? The reality is that there are many college peeps that are still carrying their V-cards and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. Still, some people can’t help but worry about the way it’ll affect their love lives (and what guys think of girls who are still virgins).
While it may seem like everyone around you is DTF on any given Friday night, the truth is that virginity is way more common than you typically think. So though there are plenty of ladies who do sleep with different people on the reg, they actually aren’t in the majority. I will be clear in this blog. May be a little TMI, but I don’t mind. As from past blogs, you have come to realize that I am an open book. I don’t write blogs to entertain my readers. I write blogs for myself and then other people are able to connect to them. With that being said, I am a virgin. I am not waiting for marriage, I am not waiting because of religious reasons. I am waiting for the person who I think deserves it. I've met a lot of people who see being a virgin as a bad thing. But I've never been ashamed of being a virgin. In some situations, I'm hesitant to admit this because I feel like some people will see me as a prude or overly innocent because of it. But I'm not. I just don't want to waste something that I see as special on some random guy who may not even remember my name the next morning.
To me, virginity is about respect. Whether it is male or female, people should respect the v-card. I can respect the fact that they’ve waited so long because I’m sure they’ve been tempted. Some people don’t know if they would ever hooked up with a virgin because they want a little more experience. But just remember…you were there once too.
There’s no problem with being a virgin. Yeah, I understand there is probably something sexy about a girl who knows what she’s doing, I guess. But obviously you don’t want a girl who knows too much what she’s doing... she’s been around the block a few times, and uhh,yeah. If a girl or guy wants to hold onto something important to them, respect that. If someone wants to have multiple sex partners, respect that as well.
It does feel like a burden sometimes, or like something I need to get rid of before it hinders me more. You don't want to have to explain how you're 40 and it's your first time. On some days, I feel like the longer I cling to my virginity, the harder it will be to get rid of it. But overall, it's really not like that. It's not an identifier. I'm not ‘the virgin’ in my friend group; I have other things that make me who I am. If you're worried about remaining a virgin, seriously—it’s not a big deal. It's not something that comes up in everyday conversation, and if it's a huge, insurmountable turnoff for someone, they're probably not the people that you want to have your first time with anyway.
Any who, it is nice to know that whatever you decide to do and whatever your level of experience you’re far from alone. So from virgins to sex addicts and everyone in between... safety, sex, and respect.
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