You Have To Love Yourself, Even When He Can’t Seem To
There must be something wrong with you. Did you misread the situation? Did you come on too strong? You reach the conclusion that there is something about you that sent him, and every guy that came before him, running scared. Maybe you are just too complicated, too something, to be loved.
The truth is, it’s not your fault that he left. Or that any guy left. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. He doesn’t get to spoil you and make you feel important just to rip the rug out from under your feet. Don’t think for a second that he left because you gave it up too easy, because casual hookups and one night stands aren’t followed by “I miss you” and “you’re all that I think about.”
This is what he didn’t want you to know: you scared the shit out of him. But not for the reasons that you think. You weren’t afraid to put your heart out there and tell him how you felt. You had the courage to ask where things were heading. Setting a higher standard for yourself doesn’t make you less desirable; it makes you admirable.
When you confronted him he told you that he didn’t want to lead you on. That he just wasn’t ready for a relationship, and that he probably wouldn’t be for a long time. He didn’t realize that it was too late for that kind of honesty. You don’t wait until after you’ve made someone feel adored and worthy to tell them you don’t want to be with them. You don’t let someone get their hopes up so high when you know that you’re only going to let them down.
Even though your heart was broken, you still defended him and gave him the benefit of the doubt. You so badly wanted to believe him when he said that he wasn’t ready right now, because you thought that he would be ready in the future. But then he moves, and then Vegas happened. And he goes and gets married to a girl he met at his new job.
You never expected to discover that he does have a WIFE now. You didn’t want to believe that the only relationship he wasn’t ready for was a relationship with you. The amount of time that lapsed between when you ended and they began was so short that you must have overlapped. It knocks the wind out of you when you realize that everything he said to you was just a script that he was rehearsing for the girl he really wanted. He never intended to be with you. You were just a way to kill time until someone better came along. He sweet talked his way into your body, into your heart, and then he threw you out like yesterday’s trash.
You are every wonderful thing that he said you are, even if he doesn’t believe it anymore. You should know that, whether he admits to it or not, it wasn’t all an act. It wasn’t that he never cared for you; he was just a boy who couldn’t make up his mind, and you deserve a man who can commit. You should be with someone who won’t change their mind on you.
The truth is, it’s not your fault that he left. Or that any guy left. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. He doesn’t get to spoil you and make you feel important just to rip the rug out from under your feet. Don’t think for a second that he left because you gave it up too easy, because casual hookups and one night stands aren’t followed by “I miss you” and “you’re all that I think about.”
This is what he didn’t want you to know: you scared the shit out of him. But not for the reasons that you think. You weren’t afraid to put your heart out there and tell him how you felt. You had the courage to ask where things were heading. Setting a higher standard for yourself doesn’t make you less desirable; it makes you admirable.
When you confronted him he told you that he didn’t want to lead you on. That he just wasn’t ready for a relationship, and that he probably wouldn’t be for a long time. He didn’t realize that it was too late for that kind of honesty. You don’t wait until after you’ve made someone feel adored and worthy to tell them you don’t want to be with them. You don’t let someone get their hopes up so high when you know that you’re only going to let them down.
Even though your heart was broken, you still defended him and gave him the benefit of the doubt. You so badly wanted to believe him when he said that he wasn’t ready right now, because you thought that he would be ready in the future. But then he moves, and then Vegas happened. And he goes and gets married to a girl he met at his new job.
You never expected to discover that he does have a WIFE now. You didn’t want to believe that the only relationship he wasn’t ready for was a relationship with you. The amount of time that lapsed between when you ended and they began was so short that you must have overlapped. It knocks the wind out of you when you realize that everything he said to you was just a script that he was rehearsing for the girl he really wanted. He never intended to be with you. You were just a way to kill time until someone better came along. He sweet talked his way into your body, into your heart, and then he threw you out like yesterday’s trash.
You are every wonderful thing that he said you are, even if he doesn’t believe it anymore. You should know that, whether he admits to it or not, it wasn’t all an act. It wasn’t that he never cared for you; he was just a boy who couldn’t make up his mind, and you deserve a man who can commit. You should be with someone who won’t change their mind on you.
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