The Happy Friend
Everyone seems to have an idea of happiness, but there is more to it than just a simple definition. Have you ever met a friend who was so happy and a constant light for you or other friends? A friend who is vibrant and always making you feel warm, no matter what might be going on in their life? That is the friend group’s “happy” friend, and they’re someone everyone loves. But I am urging you, please, check in on them.
Robin Williams once said, “I think the saddest people always try their hardest to make people happy because they know what it’s like to feel absolutely worthless, and they don’t want anyone else to feel like that,” and his quote rings true in most cases. Just because your friend seems outwardly put together, people constantly have self-turmoil, and it’s crucial that you take the time to help them.
1. Watch their mannerisms, sometimes if they appear to be over-selling their happiness, it’s probably because they are.
2. Always drop hints that you’re there- if it seems like they’re having a bad day, be there for them. It might be hard for you to comfort them at first but even just the act of trying means more than you think.
3. Support them. It will be hard for them to drop the smile and really dig deep into whatever it is unsettling them, but you could possibly save a life.
Happiness can be a mask as much as it can be an emotion. But it's not easy for me to talk to people about what's going on in my head because I know they have their own problems and I know how it feels to get everyone else's problems piled on top of you, so I would never do that to anybody. This article is not directed at anyone, but you need to realize that just because your friend is smiling every day, doesn't mean that they are okay. It would mean the world to them if just once and awhile you asked them if they are okay and instead of just walking away after they say yes, give them a hug and ask again. Because most likely that friend will break down realizing that people truly care about them and how they are doing.
Robin Williams once said, “I think the saddest people always try their hardest to make people happy because they know what it’s like to feel absolutely worthless, and they don’t want anyone else to feel like that,” and his quote rings true in most cases. Just because your friend seems outwardly put together, people constantly have self-turmoil, and it’s crucial that you take the time to help them.
1. Watch their mannerisms, sometimes if they appear to be over-selling their happiness, it’s probably because they are.
2. Always drop hints that you’re there- if it seems like they’re having a bad day, be there for them. It might be hard for you to comfort them at first but even just the act of trying means more than you think.
3. Support them. It will be hard for them to drop the smile and really dig deep into whatever it is unsettling them, but you could possibly save a life.
Happiness can be a mask as much as it can be an emotion. But it's not easy for me to talk to people about what's going on in my head because I know they have their own problems and I know how it feels to get everyone else's problems piled on top of you, so I would never do that to anybody. This article is not directed at anyone, but you need to realize that just because your friend is smiling every day, doesn't mean that they are okay. It would mean the world to them if just once and awhile you asked them if they are okay and instead of just walking away after they say yes, give them a hug and ask again. Because most likely that friend will break down realizing that people truly care about them and how they are doing.
xoxo,
The Happy Friend
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